Major Dundee, in the movie of the same name returned to his troops after an extended leave and called in a young lieutenant who was played by the actor Jim Hutton.
“When I left here” the Major said, “I gave you an order.”
“No sir,” replied the younger officer. “When you left here you gave me a command. After that, I gave the orders.”
A slight pause and the Major agreed, “So I did.”
When we delegate, whether to staff, significant others or kids – do it all the way. There will be blood, mistakes will be made, and it is expected and even somewhat desirable. But don’t buy a dog and bark yourself.